A Bit on the life after- Part 4

Hello there...

How's it going today? Hope you've had and still are having a good day. In this fourth of our five part series on "A Bit on the Life After (you say I DO)" we are going to be talking about Transparency/ Openness and it's importance in marriage.

Of course there are other things that help in making a marriage work, but we believe that these five things we're talking about here are key indeed. We cannot emphasize enough just how much these things are important. Now when we are talking of transparency, we mean EVERY area of your life should be known by your spouse... it's a long journey that you've embarked on and as everyday progresses, and with every step you take, you learn something new about your spouse, especially when you are both transparent to one another. This means that you do not hide anything about yourself. If something is transparent, it means you can see through it. So let it be with your spouse. See through one another. Be open about EVERY single thing, from your finances to the marriage bed... it's really wide, because on your own you are a complex individual and you maybe don't understand some things about yourself.. what more the next person?! You make it even hard for them to try to know you when you close yourself in.

Don't build any walls around yourself. Like we talked about in Part2- Communication, communicate. This is part of being transparent. It doesn't matter if you feel the issue's too embarrassing to talk about.. really.. because this is your spouse and if you don't want to talk about it with him/her then who will you talk about it to? Remember your vows... the ones you made or are going to make on your special day... you're now one flesh so please don't keep secrets. As we all know, when then come out, oh and they will, nothing stays hidden forever, it will not be very pleasant for the one on the receiving end, or even the one who kept the secret... we won't even get into that further!

So anyway, be open, choose to be transparent with one another. Don't hide anything. Let your spouse know EVERYTHING.. from the "smallest" to the "largest" matter... communicate.

That's it for today.

To your special day

Charlene & Aurther